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January 7, 2014

The Key to Happiness?

In the rom-com How Do You Know, Reese Witherspoon's character Lisa briefly meets with a therapist (played by Tony Shalhoub) after seeing her passion and identity crushed when she gets cut from her Olympic softball team.  She asks him: "I was just wondering if there was one general thing  that you've found over the years to be generally true in a general way that would help anyone in any situation."

His reply: "That's a great question.  Yes. I would say, figure out what you want and learn how to ask for it."

Her response: "Those are both really hard."

When you think about it, the heart of any New Year's resolution is the desire to make ourselves happier in some way.  But what makes us truly happy?  What is it you really want? Not what others tell you to want, or what you think you should want or feel you should want.  Reese (or more accurately, director and screenwriter James L. Brooks) is right: that is a surprisingly hard question to answer honestly.  Even harder perhaps is to actually go ahead and ask for it.  To say the words out loud, to put your desire out into the universe, laid bare for all to see. 

On the other hand ... what's the worst that can happen?

Let's see, shall we?

to be continued

9 comments:

Lisa Denise said...

I guess for me if what I want or expect is too dependent, upon another individual...that's where things get complicated for me.

Lisa @ Girl at the Beach. x

Lee Romano Sequeira said...

Perfect question for the new year! Just yesterday I began a mediation program, which brough up this question and will have many more to ponder along my meditating way.

Cheers to looking forward to see what magic unfolds for all of us n 2014.

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Lee Romano Sequeira said...

oops meditation :)

I am typing way too fast today - forgive me my typos :)

Style Maniac said...

Definitely sounds like a conversation to be continued. Thanks for sharing, Lisa.

albfor said...

Indeed! That's a good one.

~ Al

Karen said...

It does cut to the very heart of all the reflective questions at this New Year. Thank you for sharing this.

Lady Goo Goo Gaga said...

Great Perspective! I am a big believer in putting something out into the universe and asking for it...happy new year!!

Heather Lindstrom said...

Absolutely Doreen! I agree wholeheartedly-putting it out there costs nothing but the potential for gain is limitless. Happy New Year my dear!
xx, Heather

therelishedroost said...

THat is something I need to learn how to do!! THanks for the inspiration!